How can I change if I don’t know what’s wrong?

How can I change if I don’t know what’s wrong?

That was one of the most powerful questions someone asked during my recent webinar on behaviour and blind spots.

The truth is: you can’t change what you can’t see. That’s what makes blind spots so dangerous; they quietly hold you back, and you only see the consequences, not the cause.

There are ways to uncover them:

- Ask for feedback from people who will be honest with you.

-Reflect on situations that didn’t go your way, then ask someone, “How do you think I came across? Any advice you can give for next time?”

- Or use a tool like the Mindclip® Behaviour Style survey, which gives you both self-reflection and peer feedback in a structured way. Next week, we will post about the upcoming Webinar on the topic. 

My blind spot?

In my corporate life, I was told I appeared intimidating.

I was direct.

I didn’t sugarcoat.

I didn’t see a reason to soften things up “just because.”

It worked, until it didn’t.

I learned that people didn’t come to me with suggestions. I wasn’t seen as approachable. And yes, because I was a woman, the expectation to be “nice” amplified the problem.

I decided it was time to do something about it. It took years, including a third Master’s in Organisational Psychology, until I fully understood how being more empathetic and emotionally present wasn’t weakness… it was leadership.

Blind spots don’t mean you’re broken.

However, understanding them makes you aware of them and gives you the choice to change. 

What’s one insight you’ve received from feedback that changed how you lead?